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There's a lot of debate about whether leaders are somehow better than managers, or if managers are better than leaders. But to make employees great, to truly leverage employee performance and engagement, you actually need the correct balance of both the external forces of management and the internal forces of leadership.
In one of our recent studies, we matched the data from the employee engagement surveys and performance appraisals in 207 organizations. To the best of our knowledge, we're the first ones to do this, and one thing we were looking for were anomalous conditions; the unexpected. And from the magnitude of the media storm created by our study release (everyone from NPR to Rush Limbaugh picked it up), boy did we find it. In a nutshell, our study showed that:
* In 42% of the organizations studied, employees receiving "low performer" performance-appraisal ratings scored higher than "high performers" on the engagement survey questions: "I am motivated to give 100% effort at work" and "I recommend this organization as a great place to work."
In other words, there are a lot of low performers reporting to be more motivated than their high performing peers, and who claim to be enjoying their work more than their high performing peers.
IS THIS A MANAGEMENT ISSUE OR A LEADERSHIP ISSUE?
These findings represent a big problem, but is it a management issue or a leadership issue? The answer is, it's both. Leadership IQ researchers were able to identify some of the reasons why so many great employees feel so demotivated at work. And two of the big factors responsible are:
* Dissatisfaction with employee performance recognition and reward, and
* Feeling little to no personal control over career trajectory.
Now, management is extrinsic; it's all about observing the behavioral actions employees take and motivating with external punishment and rewards that incent employees to higher performance. Leadership, on the other hand, focuses on the intrinsic. It's not about giving employees a reward for doing a good thing, or a punishment for a bad thing. But rather, leadership is about getting employees to want to do that good thing; to want to take control of their own careers and their own futures by creating greatness for the organization and for themselves.
HUNDRED PERCENTER PERFORMANCE REQUIRES BOTH EXTRINSIC MANAGEMENT AND INTRINSIC LEADERSHIP
Creating a Hundred-Percenter workplace requires a delicate balance of leveraging the formal authority and power of management while challenging your people in psychologically smart ways to help them realize their full potential and to take control of their own futures within the organization. This will be the focus of our upcoming live webinar: Are You a Manager or a Leader? We'll start by debunking a lot of the traditional management and leadership measures many organizations still use, and then learn some great new tools like the 3-ways that 100% Leaders challenge their employees to achieve more without burning them out, and some rules for soliciting feedback from employees, and listening to that feedback, in a way that supercharges both your management and leadership skills.
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Pleased Friday, Idolator readers! Are you seasoned for your pop practice quiz? Let's review what happened this week, shall we?
All eyes were on TAYLOR Starve yourself as the country-pop diva rational a Yahoo live-stream to pass on check in about her fifth detached house verification "1989", which will be open in October. Tay very premiered her MAX MARTIN/SHELLBACK-produced single "Shiver It Out" as well as the track's dorky tape. What's above, NICKI MINAJ dropped her jungle-themed, warm and ass-tastic clear for "Anaconda," Scottish beatsmith CALVIN HARRIS previewed a get tangled of "Telling off" with British crooner JOHN NEWMAN, and Female GAGA and TONY BENNETT collective their tracklist for their foxtrot verification, "Oral cavity To Oral cavity."
Offer on Idolator, we premiered BENNY BENASSI's latest single "Firing of guns Helicopters" with Mechanism OF A DOWN's SERJ TANKIAN and, in lieu of the 2014 MTV Best ever Music Awards, rational our first-ever glamour-filled Idolator Hard disk Awards.
As always, you guys had profusion to say. Gate the week's best observations below!
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:: VERONICAVIXEN loves that Female Gaga is a risk-taker and is always not eat of the junction on Female Gaga And Tony Bennett's "I Can't Movie You Whatsoever But Intuition": Apply your mind & See Their Tracklist: " Gaga, always 5 steps not eat of the pack. Ever since someone is trying to put out edm now, Gaga is onto high-class and better things! Intuition the chances she's prize. Be attracted to Cyndi told her, magnet no prisoners!"
:: ERIC wasn't incredulous to see Nicki trembling it on Nicki Minaj's NSFW "Anaconda" Best ever Delivers On Boobs, Ass, Twerking, Lapdances Semi-Nudity: The Bleakness Is Real: It's funny seeing all the bugbear and even surprise over this tape for example of it's coarse nature. Um...was someone having a lie-down while the single give came out? And the fact that the song samples "Baby Got Buoy up" not very adequate of what was to come? In the role of was someone expecting? Nicki in a tablet gown holding hands with some guy and being romantic?"
:: SAM SCARCELLO was stamped by Ariana Grande's latest tunes on Ariana Grande Streams 4 Songs From 'My Everything': Apply your mind To "Why Try, A Scarce Bit Of Your Character, Be My Baby" & "Intuition Me Harder": "This is great stuff. Arguably better than the singles she's put out thus far. Far less deputation on stage trends. Not bad."
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:: JUSTIN had the hots for that Calvin Harris on Shirtless Calvin Harris Takes Ice Container Finals & It's A Pec-Filled Inspect To Behold: Watch: "He sure is purty to look at."
:: As if that wasn't adequate, DAVIDASK posed a a little gripping question about the video: "Hot damn! Did they dampen out his pubes?"
:: GRETCHEN WEINERS consideration Earl Sweatshirt's observations lacked relevance on Earl Sweatshirt Is Not Frightened By Taylor Swift's "Shiver It Off" Video: See His s: "Um, what sincere points did he make? He admits he didn't even watch the tape. The guy's a chitchat just looking for relevance."
:: ADAM much loved Mariah Carey's "Shiver It Off" to Taylor's on Taylor Swift's New LP Is Called '1989' but off-limits to non-blacks. That's the definition of cheating.'Criticisms of dislike of foreigners in the use of clear pop cues subjugated by any black and non-black performers is, inherently, racist/racially supremacist and false piety of the definitive sort. It serves to revitalize differences, produce resentment, and supporter combat wherever state hardship be none. It is sneak to do magic tricks the problems highlighted in MO this previously week. But it is very deep to point out that knowingly of the injury that has been caused began with the chance (I elaborate) meaning of such narrow- and short-sighted cultural territoriality and the separate it has engendered."
:: ANTHONY GILBERT ARAGON, on the extreme gap, begged to differ: "Thats so stupid, people are genuinely complaining about the black female dancers. Ancestors need to advance realizing that if any dancers in state who are black, gray, asian, gay, privilege, at all don't want to be in a music tape, stage performance, or at all due to it being extremist or demorilizing they don't control to be in it they control a option. Why argument and deposit your breathe about everything that's not even in the least proposal plausible."
:: And to finish, SEAN came to Taylor's buttress as well on Taylor Swift's "Shiver It Off" Stuck-up Responds To Earl Sweatshirt's "Naive" Criticism: "From top to bottom. I'm not a Taylor Starve yourself fan, but I can tell you that this tape is about being yourself. It's in no way alleged to show Taylor scoffs the dancers, but to show that she doesn't fit in to any fashion and never will. She's being herself and jovial others to do the awfully. Straightforwardly, it seems like people control been on one with the send-up of "cultural cheating." It's like the world just without an answer weave of this word for the first time and is deciding to pin it on suchlike that even timidly resembles it."
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Leading by our example calls on us in ways that go beyond any work role we have day-to-day.
This year, in particular, has brought with it much turmoil and strife, providing a rich number of observations and experiences to begin our own self-examination of lessons learned. If you have been paying attention, we haven't had to look too far to witness displays of some of our most unattractive human behaviors, like fingerpointing, name-calling, disrespect, disregard for others
we've seen plenty of examples that draw us back to our most basic beliefs and values for renewal. Whenever I see the "big" examples that make the news, I am reminded that these same struggles hit each of our lives in ways that are sometimes subtle, seemingly small, and under reported or acknowledged. As we look to a new year, it is a great time to re-evalutate our own behavior and actions, asking...What's going well as we work to lead by example? What isn't? and What will I do differently?
Why do we struggle to be loving, accepting, and tolerant of others?How does this calling reach out to us as leaders?
Personally, after life's missteps, miracles, my share of tragedies, and years of soul-searching, I have come to believe that the most powerful influence of Grace and Good comes from how we live sometimes more than what we say out loud. For example, I have a friend who is uniquely different in just about every way. We rarely directly talk about our differences, but we have found ways to weave and integrate the good that comes from both our perspectives on life into a meaningful friendship, each growing and changing in our own way, supporting one another.
This morning, I read a passage from Don Miguel Ruiz book, The Four Agreements...actually I have a little box on my desk with cards in it that have the "pearls and gems" from the book. The four agreements are:
1. Be impeccable with your word.2. Don't take anything personally.3. Don't make assumptions.4. Always do your best.
The two cards on top of the deck today came from "Don't make Assumptions"...
"The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We make an assumption. We misunderstand. We take it personally, then we react by sending emotional poison with our word. This creates a whole big drama for nothing."
"Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them..."
What are you willing to do to make yourself and your life a beacon of acceptance for others that may be different from you?
I would like to know what you think.
Warm wishes to you...Debbe
Debbe KennedyFounder, Global Dialogue CenterHome of Women in the LeadAuthor, Putting Our Differences to Work
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Author : William Morgan
Lets face it, private practice has changed from what it was 10 to 15 years ago. Managed care has made therapeutic services more accessible to the masses, but also lowered standards of service and diminished the perceived value of therapy. Providers receive less compensation, have more administrative work, and feel less in control of the service they provide.I have two purposes in writing these paragraphs. First, I want to share that transitioning to a full fee-for-service practice is quite possible. Second, I want to help you create and realize your vision for a satisfying and successful career.The thing is, you can make a living helping others. But you have to let go of the idea that the traditional way is the only way. Psychotherapists can leverage their talents, expertise and abilities in many ways. There are many possible formats for delivering psychological help.So, how do you, as a therapist, format what you have to offer? To begin, try looking at your services as a solution to a specific problem rather than as treatment for an illness.
In the traditional model, clients must be ill. In order for people to access their health insurance, they must be diagnosed as having a mental illness. This is the medical model.
This creates a barrier for many people to choose to utilize psychological services. They do not want to see themselves as mentally ill and in need of treatment. But, as we shall see, even healthy, high-functioning individuals can benefit from psychological services.
Thus, we tremendously expand our potential market when we reduce the stigma of utilizing our services and focus less on pathology.Instead, we may adopt a problem-solving/skill-building model, in which clients no longer need to be ill to use our services and receive benefit.Psychology is not just for the sick.For example, Martin Seligmans book "Authentic Happiness" (2002) and Daniel Golemans books "Emotional Intelligence" (1995) and "Working with Emotional Intelligence" (1998) provide us with frameworks we can use in a problem-solving/skill-building model. See also Reivich and Shatts (2002) "The Resilience Factor." Rather than focus on illness and therapy, we can talk about increasing personal and career effectiveness, personal growth, increasing life satisfaction and resiliency.Can you see how this broadens the reach and impact of our services? We can provide solutions to lifes problems and challenges, without the stigma of a diagnosis -- keeping in mind that there is certainly a place for traditional services and therapy for mental illness for those that need it.In this non-traditional approach, we seek to use our services to:1. Answer a specific problem or challenge
2. Target a service toward a specific group of people
3. Utilize a tangible format.So, whether you intend to use traditional therapy as 25 percent or 75 percent of your practice pie, its a smart move to identify what non-traditional services you could add to the mix of streams of income for yourself.William D. Morgan is a psychologist, author, and private practice business coach. He coaches human service professionals and others who want to build thriving practices. For more helpful information and tips, visit http://www.TodaysPrivatePractice.com/membershipinfo.html This is an excerpt from his NEW BOOK - Todays Private Practice: Strategies for Building a Thriving Managed-Care Free Psychotherapy Practice, http://www.TodaysPrivatePractice.com
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Well, we asked for equality and I guess one area where women are getting what they asked for is with respect to May-December "romances." After all, men have had, throughout the history of man and womankind, their share of old goats who traded in a 40 for two 20's (ha-ha). The image of the walrus-mustached, white-thatched tycoon with the knockout blonde on his arm has certainly been around for at least as long as "The New Yorker" has been printing cartoons. And anyone want to start a pool with me guessing the date when Arnold Schwarzenegger will appear in public squiring a leggy young thing. (Let's make it more interesting: you have to guess the date "and" the year of birth of the leggy young thing.)
We've come a long way, baby. At least I guess we have.
Cougars, it seems, have come into their own.
And let's just say that these days, you can't have any kind of little old trend - in this case the "cougar predator lifestyle" - without an entire economic apparatus growing up around it.
Thus, I give you the Cougar Industry. (Actually, it's Business Week that's giving it to you. I'm just the channeling medium.)
Sorry to say that I missed the National Cougar Convention, which was held at a Manhattan nightclub. Then again, I wouldn't have wanted to stand in the way of Aalsa Lee. At 73, she may not have all that many more opportunities to make a run at the Miss Cougar America title, which she won, beating out over thirty not so young lovelies, including crowd fave "Jerzee", she of the "very dark, unhealthy-looking tan" and the "extremely short tie-dyed skirt adorned with peace symbols." (All she is saying, is give piece a chance....)
The Cougar lifestyle has now been with us for ten years.
I'm not quite sure exactly what defines a Cougar, but I don't think it's just when there's a few years difference in ages. I guess it's when the woman is old enough to be the mother of the object of her affection. (Or, as the article states, perhaps "cougar" is simply the label society assigns financially independent divorc'ees.")
"There is a new archetype that's emerging," says Amy Luna Manderino, the reigning Miss Cougar International. "There have always been free-thinking, vital women over the age of 40. The difference today is our numbers have reached a critical mass."
I'm all for free-thinking, vital women over the age of 40. In fact, I do believe there's been critical mass of them for quite a long while. That is, if you define the free-thinking women category as broader than those who prefer to play with boy-toys.But if you constrain the definition to those who think young men, there's apparently an entire "transcontinental economy" designed to cater to their every Cougar desire.
...conventions, dating sites, tourism, and other cougar-themed business ventures. Miss Cougar America is part of a larger pageant hierarchy that includes Miss Cougar Miami, Miss Cougar Las Vegas, and Miss Cougar Sydney...The greater cougar industry has expanded into books (Dating a Cougar, Hot Cougar Sex, A Christian Cougar), television (real-life cougar Courtney Cox's Cougar Town and the reality-TV show The Cougar), and even the big screen.
There's also a new movie out - "Cougar Hunting" - that follows a bunch of young guys "on a quest for older women."
The old me wants to say "as f-ing if". But the new me - even though, as a married gal who's a bit long in the fang, I don't qualify as a cougar - says that, once media constructs are constructed, they sure do have a way of becoming reality. Especially once - ageism rules! - the age of the cub-desired cougar is drifting down from true older gal, like Aalsa Lee, to thirty-early-forty something. And it's apparently the cubs that are driving the surreality in which the cougar hunting is a "very hot economic trend in the dating world." And in which Ms. Manderino has:
...already identified six categories of cubs, including "fetish cubs, mama's boy cubs," and cubs who simply want a story to tell their friends.
"Mama's boy cubs"?
Sorry, my stomach is roiling. Waste basket, please.
Lucia Demasi, who recently took over Urban Cougar, is enthusiastic about the company's outlook. She is hoping to increase current traffic from 35,000 to 100,000 visitors each month. "In the Jewish tradition," Lucia says, "you become a man with a bar mitzvah. For everybody else, maybe it'll be a cougar."
Today your son's a man. Mazel tov.
Soon, Urban Cougar will offer VIP memberships, Lucia says, for 7.99 to 12.99 per month.
Or you could save up for the:
Norwegian Cruise Line provides a Cougar Cruise to the Bahamas. (Three- and five-night packages range from 150 to 500.) More modest cross-cultural options include a 195 two-night Celtic Cougar deal at the Irish Cottage Boutique Hotel in Galena, Ill.
I can honestly say that I never thought I would see the words Celtic Cougar, Irish Cottage, and Galena, Ill. used in combination. I do believe that my mother and my aunt Mary took a trip once to Galena, Illinois. Hmmmm. They said they were looking at the old Victorian houses. Wonder what really went on there.
These thoughts come from an online discussion forum (I'm near the bottom) that I thought would be worth saving if for no other reason than to say "I told you so."
Special ed students cost, on average, over twice that of the average student--An astounding 17,000 per pupil. The utilitarian benefit is, of course, considerably less--certainly a net liability. Machiavellian as that sounds, it's fallacious to let a bleeding heart bludgeon the wallet to death. Today, special education consumes 20% of public education spending (used a very liberal source as an antidote to your incredulity :) in the US. The fluffy-feeling this may give you aside, does it make sense to invest the highest amount of resources into the least productive people?
Less intelligent people can actually be better at many menial tasks that bore more intelligent people into lethargic sloppiness--they should be trained for these sorts of tasks, not put into mainstream classes where they learn nothing and are patronized (benevolent as your intentions may be, taking care of a handicapped person like you'd take care of a pet qualifies as patronization in my mind).
Excerpted from a John Derbyshire column (the whole thing is a worthwhile five minute read). He's discussing the 91% of Chinese scientists who believe eugenics is a good thing the government should be involved in and how the discussion of eugenic practices has no sembelance of the Christian ethics we in the West (especially the lefties) pride ourselves on. In the PRC they pragmatically talk instead of how it should best be executed--whether or not it should be done is not even a question:
"A rough kind of eugenics has, in fact, been practiced in China for a long time. Several years ago, when I was living in that country, I mentioned Down's Syndrome in conversation with a Chinese colleague. She did not know the English term and I did not know the Chinese, so we had to look it up in a dictionary. 'Oh,' she said when she got it. 'That's not a problem in China. They don't get out of the delivery room.'
As I said: While we are agonizing over the rights and wrongs of it, elsewhere they will just be doing it."
Keep in mind that China has Asian expansionism in its plans (North Korea's tentative promise not to develop nukes means the PRC won't have to worry about Japan and Taiwan going nuclear--notice that China was the country that got North Korea to oblige after the other four countries could not) and in less than eleven years (using US GDP growth of 4% and PRC GDP growth of 9% to future value) China's total economy will be larger than that of the US. Their population also has a higher average IQ than the US, ties with ruthless regimes like Iran, Zimbabwe, and North Korea, and because of the one-child policy recently reneged, millions more young males than young females (as males are more "prized"). I point out the glut of young males because, well, what makes a better army than millions of young males with no one to marry? I'm coming at this with assumed prescience--that the PRC will be the next Soviet Union. Unfortunate, because I love far-Eastern culture and people, but inevitable given the Han's feeling of superiority and the insatiable energy appetite that is going to consume China in the coming years.
Can we afford to fall behind?
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If she has a boyfriend.. as well as you have got to respect that and just be her friend. If they break up as well as you date her, but one-time than that you are only asking for trouble.I need advice on how to get the girl i like who is not single but comes off that way to me?
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i dunno man?
well theres nobody you can evidently do just intermission till her and her boyfriend chomp a scull and as well as you can comfort her in all probability she will she that you evidently care.good fate
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if she evidently is lucky you chomp to move on or intermission for her
but if you still go after her dont get to close you'll end up being her brother preferably of being shes attracted to
and it hurts for instance that happens its all about timing man to fast and you scare her off to tedious and you lose her to being as well
Put a gun to a her boss. If that won't ';make'; her yours, in all probability you possibly will put the gun to your boss. And no-one else this time, correct the induce.
ok kid look just keep the close friend up and help her out so wen she breaks up with her bf u can help her out but dont come on too strong or infantile and just intermission for a bit but dont get to strong like voice her more than as well as u do normaly help with hard times.
you just gotta intermission till they break up
person she has a boyfriend no matter wat not to be painful but if she evidently liked u she would break up with him!
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