Let Justice Be Done Though The Heavens Fall The Real Alpha Male Attitude Not This Bad Boy Crap

Every great man I've ever known lived by the ancient code, "Let justice be done, though the heavens fall." Women flocked to them, and their own wives worshiped them. Why?Today has been a day filled with interesting e-mails from readers. One of these e-mails described a conversation that a man was having misgivings about having had with his wife.They've been having compatibility problems - he's extremely mature and she's extremely immature, even though they are both within a year or two of 40 - and her immaturity has caused her to have no achievement in her life and hence, no self-esteem, and had become dependent on her marriage and her child for her feelings of achievement and independence, which cannot work because it makes the source of one's self-esteem something other than one's self.This man is quite brilliant and a strong leader, recognized the problem, and loved her enough that when she left to go "find herself," he didn't beg her to come home or try to force her to come home, he told her that she needed to grow up and have a life before she was going to be able to share one with him, and that reconciliation wasn't an option until she had grown enough to feel good about herself and be able to enjoy his company instead of being dependent on it.Months have gone by, during which she has descended to an embarrassing level of immaturity and arguing with pure fabrication and fantasy to back her up (really sounding like full-blown mid-life crisis), but suddenly, over the last few weeks, it's like she's emerging from the fog, realizing that he was right, that all her machinations and fantasies have brought her nothing but trouble and hard feelings, and has become rational and responsible to a degree that neither of us would have expected for a long time. This is not uncommon when somebody bottoms out hard and realizes that the people who were thought to be their enemies and oppressors were actually the only people left who cared.She has now set reasonable goals and laid very rational plans to achieve these goals, and has been dropping hints of repentance and testing the waters to see how much damage she's done and if it can be repaired sufficiently to ultimately allow her to return home. Hence the conversation...He wants her to tell him in full detail of her desires, goals, plans and whether she currently wants to come back home, and when that might be, but is concerned about whether he could live with the answer. My advice: have the conversation. Let justice be done, though the heavens fall.That quote is attributed to Julius Caesar's father-in-law, a Roman statesman by name of Lucius Calpurnius Piso Caesoninus. Let's take a quick look at its true meaning, and you'll see why great men live by it and women find it irresistible."Justice" isn't about law, or necessarily even about punishment. It's about getting what one deserves - what he or she has earned by virtue of their choices and actions, good, bad or indifferent. What Caesoninus was saying was that they should do what was just, even if it upset and destroyed the natural order of things, in his case, the unseating of some powerful people, in our reader's case, hearing something that was other than what he wanted to hear. Why is this so important? And attractive?A real man knows that no matter what happens, if it is realistic and just, he can build upon it and make improvement and progress, even if he has to rebuild from ruins. He doesn't like or try to create mayhem, but if that's the only way that he and those in his charge can get what they deserve, good, bad, or indifferent, he's prepared to go that route, because his word, his character, and his self-respect are important to him. This is how he sleeps well at night, and why he wakes up each morning looking forward to the day, no matter what the previous day held or this day holds. It is the guardian of his self-esteem, and the polish on the tools of his achievement: reason, character, and confidence.Having read those last few words, is there any question as to why women would find this wildly attractive? A man with a strong sense of justice who consistently applies it defines and exerts authority in a way that inferior men can never hope to do: he can lead without having to manipulate or be a bully. This is one of those areas wherein the rules for dating differ from those for committed relationships; a woman looking for a night of fun and excitement may seldom look deep enough into a man to see this kind and strength of character, but a woman who is looking for or is in a committed relationship will home in on it from miles away. Such a man walks into a room and everybody knows without question that he owns it, and to a degree, owns them, because he will be the strongest man in the room in terms of reason, character, and confidence.It may sound like this is a difficult way to live at first glance, but think about it, and you'll find that it's actually easier. There is no deceit to try to cover up, any messes you end up in are made up of facts that can be sorted through and worked with instead of having to struggle against everything to solve a problem, and women adore you, including your partner, for who and what you are instead of secretly wishing you were something else - and something better.Strong character and a sense of justice, contrary to popular belief, is a choice, one of the most important choices a man can make, because it in turn is the foundation for most, if not all, of the rest of the choices he makes in his life. It is also one of the very few things about a man that can create both love (a sense of value) and attraction (a sense of excited desire) in a woman.Add justice, in its true sense, to your personal code of values and watch what happens to the rest of your life, and the reactions you get from women. Those of bad character will run from you, while those of good character - and who will make good wives and mothers, or at least low-maintenance girlfriends, for those of you not looking for a committed relationship at the moment but like keeping good candidates around for when that time comes - will flock to you, and if you're already with a good woman you'll find that she'll whip a running saw mill to protect her relationship with you. If you have any doubt of the truth or profoundness of what I'm telling you here, there are plenty of women at our forum, http://forum.makingherhappy.com, who will be more than happy to verify it for you if they haven't already, as they have already spoken at length of much of what they look for, are attracted to, and enjoy in a man.You'll also find that other people - friends, employers, employees, vendors, customers, etc. - will flock to you. The old bromide "opposites attract" is only true all of the time when speaking of magnetism; otherwise it's infrequent, fickle, and counter-productive most of the time, as it is most often the result of boredom, not effective matchmaking. Good relationships require compatibility; hence, "birds of a feather flock together" is something you can depend upon.So you didn't see that coming, huh? You would have if you knew as much about women as you should to be trying to live with one at all, let alone live happily with one. Do you know what she's really saying when she says, "Fine!" and nothing else? Do you know what she's TELLING you when she's ASKING you a question? Do you know what question she's asking you any time she's telling you something? If you've been reading these newsletters for several months, I'm sure you can be right at least part of the time, but you'll find that only part of the time isn't good enough...A partial fix to your relationship problems doesn't fix your relationship. It merely slows down the inevitable break-up. No, that's not a good thing; it gives you more time to make more mistakes, become more heavily invested in the relationship, and harbor more ill feelings when it does finally blow up in your face. Think that can't happen? It is quite common for me to be working with couples who are on the brink of divorce or who have already decided to divorce when the wife ends up pregnant - with the husband's child. When you're in trouble and emotions are high, just about anything can happen, especially if it's bad, because emotionally-driven decisions are only good ones by coincidence.The only time that delaying the inevitable break-up is a good thing is if you have all the information you need to fix all your shortcomings in your hands and are working on learning it. So let me help you with that...Everything you need to know to become the real man that you were truly born to be, will thoroughly enjoy living as, and can very easily become is in my book, "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," along with everything you need to know to fix your shortcomings in your relationship, such as your ability to evaluate your relationship and the people in it, and to communicate with a woman to such a degree that she tells her friends that you're one of those extra rare guys who "just knows" what she wants, and understands her without being one of those crying wusses they tried to turn us all into in the 1980's. Download your copy at http://www.makingherhappy.com right now, and get started; never put off until tomorrow the success and happiness you can have today.In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham