Submission And The Modern Day Woman

1950 and 2014 are entirely different eras in terms of relationships. With the majority of households in the African-American culture being led by SINGLE MOTHERS, you don't have to look far to find strong, independent beautiful black offspring. In relationships, more than ever, women are often the sole bread winners. What do some men have to say about this switch from submissive to independent women? [Black couple on couch]. Retrieved May 7, 2014. From: http://atlantablackstar.com/2013/01/26/changing-your-sexual-habits-to-adjust-to-your-partners-creates-better-relationships/First, the word submissive means to be HUMBLY OBEDIENT. Many men believe that a lot of women aren't raised to be submissive nowadays. Some women feel that being submissive puts them in a vulnerable state that they aren't easily going to give up without some surties that her heart is in good hands. In 2014, submission is earned and not given. That's a major difference. Many people associate submission with leading and being led. Some men walk right into a relationship asking for women to be submissive without first "proving" that he can be a great LEADER. If this was your job, how difficult would it be to follow your boss if you felt that they were not leading you into the right direction for your career? Exactly! Relationships are no different.The huge MISPERCEPTION is that women aren't or can't be submissive. The fact is many women do not have a problem with submitting, as long as it's a person whom she believes in, trusts and values as someone who would not lead her astray. There is also a lot of "give and take" with submission as well.For example, if your partner notices that you struggle with finances yet they sucessfully manage theirs, then it's OK to let the control go. You don't have to yell and scream that they're not being submissive.However, ladies also have to stop associating everything with submission. If your man feels the debate has gone on long enough and asks you to stop talking about it for the moment, then "take heed". Remember, submission is not just for women; it goes both ways. By: J.L. Kirkwood