Rapport

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Rapport is often defined as "liking" but this is not completely accurate. Rapport occurs in a relationship when one person is responsive to another.

In NLP terms, rapport means you demonstrate understanding of the other person's model of the world. It has nothing to do with the other person liking you (at first). In fact two enemies can have rapport.

If you examine the above definition the key word is "demonstrate understanding" and does not mean that one actually has to understand the other person's model of the world.

Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective, being in "sync", being on the same "wavelength" as the person with whom you are talking.

Here is an acronym for Rapport

R-really

A- all

P- people

P- prefer

O-others

R-resembling

T- them

Rapport and Mirroring and Matching

There are a number of techniques that are supposed to be beneficial in building rapport such as: matching your body language (ie, posture, gesture, and so forth); maintaining eye contact; and matching breathing rhythm. Some of these techniques are explored in neuro-linguistic programming.

One of these techniques is called "mirroring and matching" in which the person wanting to establish rapport will reflect back movements and gestures back to the other person. In order to avoid the perception of mimicry in "monkey-see-monkey-do" fashion a pause of about 5 seconds is given before perfectly mirroring another person.

Influence trainer, Tom Vizzini, suggests that mirroring and matching do not cause rapport but are a result of rapport.

Assuming Rapport

An easier and more immediate method of gaining rapport than mirroring and matching is to assume you already have it.

How do you do this? You just do it. Assume this person is your long lost friend or that you've had a very long and reliable relationship. It's easier than you might think.

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